1.Develop self-awareness on trigger points,2. Own the outcome over physical symptoms, 3. Avoid creating hypothetical situation 4. Prefer wisdom over intelligence in responding 5. Learn to maintain harmony between personal & professional life, 6. Be adaptable,7. Understand the power of word” No” ,8. Express yourself in healthy way,9. Say yourself “It’s okay to make mistake.
Here is more detailed explanation:
A) Develop self-awareness on trigger points:
An emotionally intelligent people identify their trigger points which could be any events, memories, uncomfortable topics, experiences or even some unlike minded people that brings up spontaneous emotional response irrespective of their current mood, however they are prepared to deal with it. It’s a choice they make over years to manage it in better way over creating chaos.
When strong emotion pops up, they neither try to ignore or fight back rather they take insightful approach to know the trigger point & face them with resolutions, which is the key point for good emotional health.
B) Own the outcome over physical symptoms:
When emotions are triggered, the symptom appears physically like some people may face change in breathing pattern, increased or slower heart beats, increased or decreased blood pressure, headache but emotionally intelligent people observe the impact on their mind & body. They choose to relax & feel better by engaging in some exercise, or gardening or going out for a drive. They come up with solutions & live in mindfulness.
C) Avoid creating hypothetical situation:
Incapable person suffers mostly because of the story they tell themselves when emotionally triggered, but emotionally intelligent people never fall in this trap. They come with reasoning, root cause, trigger points & how to fix the issue to not repeat again. They choose to not cry again for the same issue.
D) Prefer wisdom over intelligence in responding:
Wise people equip themselves with situational skills & understand the value of adaptability. They are out of blame game & criticism. They pay attention based on severity of matter & understand the importance of being silent. They surround themselves with positive people, listen actively & empathetically & speak up, when necessary, without seeking validation from anyone.
E) Learn to maintain harmony between personal & professional life:
Emotionally intelligent people set boundaries & doesn’t allow themselves to be screwed up at work place. Family is their first priority & then comes the career. Since they are in happy state of mind, they perform professionally good too. Being above average & not targeting to be on top is what they prefer & it’s the vital traits of emotionally intelligent people.
F) Be adaptable:
They mold themselves as per situation & avoid causing sufferings to themselves & in surroundings. They are good listeners & prefer to stay silent, opens up only when it’s required. They are easy going people to avoid the problematic circumstances.
G) They understand the power of word” No”:
Saying no when it’s required saves you from conflicting situation. In day-to-day life, we come across certain scenario where we are asked to do something which is against of our basic nature or core values but still, we agree just by thinking about other’s opinion on us, however you may struggle in your mind & about your decision to be part of that. So, the simple solution here is” saying no” to avoid all the problems. It’s not rude to say no for something which is against of our values & basic nature.
H) Express yourself in healthy way:
It’s always good to be assertive & speak out on what we feel. Expressing our point of view gives us a sense of satisfaction & confidence. We feel emotionally up & don’t overthink of the situation over & again if we learn to express on time.
I) Say yourself “It’s okay to make mistake:
Build positive perspective towards mistake, it helps in learning, hence can be looked like an opportunity. Never compare yourself with someone, rather focus on how you improve on daily basis. Growth is important than perfection.