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Let’s Explore key values like love, respect, and integrity that can keep humanity thriving and promote emotional well-being. Below is the list of essential values:

1.Love 2. Kindness 3. Respect 4. Honesty 5. Forgiveness 6. Gratitude 7. Optimism 8. Appreciation 9. Acceptance 10. Ethics & integrity 11. Courage 12. Resilience 13. Empathy 14. Accountability 15. Transparency 16. Patience 17. Consistency 18. Fun 19. Adaptability 20. Happiness.

Humanity simply means love & compassion towards each other. The collective qualities & characteristics of an individual beyond physical & biological aspects but more inclined towards emotional, social & moral aspects is referred as humanity which is the core pillar of any culture across globe.

Love: it’s a beautiful holistic feeling which consists different elements, words, expression & actions. Love connects two creatures selflessly and deeply. Their emotions & actions get pure for each other’s without any expectation. “When love & compassion joins together & keeps expectation out of the equation, humanity is remembered”-unknown!

Kindness: Utilizing our abilities, resources, time & privilege for the betterment of others & ourselves is kindness. Being kind when you are powerful makes is a good lesson to mankind. Kindness is the way to keep humanity alive & spread love in the world. It takes nothing to be kind to each other, but it gives happiness to receiver which is priceless.

Respect: Sense of esteem for the self & the others makes our relationship impactful. Considering the worth & abilities of a person, valuing own time, personal space of ourselves & of others creates a sense of regards. Being polite to one another irrespective of differences is an important aspect of being human.

Honesty: An individual’s adherence to the reality & straightforwardness, staying natural & genuine in any circumstances makes them honest & reliable. “Honesty is the best policy” is a common proverb heard in any part of world.

Forgiveness: it’s an important attribute of human where they can consciously choose to let go the things, not because the opponent deserves but forgiver deserves to be at peace & healed so that they can spread positivity around. When you are free from all the grudges, only can deliver the good emotions to people around, hence we must practice forgiveness.

Gratitude: We must be grateful for the good things which happens to us & even when it’s bad, it gives us some lesson. Appreciating the kindness or the rewards we get makes us more graceful human. It’s very basic human behavior to be thankful for anything which comes as a part of blessings.

Optimism: Being hopeful in life works as a fuel to keep going & utilize the time appropriately. There are always two ways to see the things, if we see, positively life becomes easier & vice versa. As a human, we must be optimistic to simply our life & that of our closest one. As we know, “thoughts provoke to action “so if we are positive, it reflects in our action & so in the result.

Appreciation: Celebrating the good moments of others, clapping for other’s achievement make us more sensible humans. What goes around, comes around hence we must stand up & appreciate the good qualities & extraordinary efforts of others.

Acceptance: Not everything happenings in the world & our life can be exactly understood or fixed, being vigilant is good, being a revolutionary & fighter is good but when you learn from your experience, you need to grow more to fix the things, it comes to acceptance. Accepting the situation makes you calm, powerful & hopeful to get prepared for exactly what you want in life.

Ethics & integrity: Ethic is set of principles associated to certain place & culture which drives our behavior accordingly on the other hand integrity is a unit of honesty. To success as a human or as a family or as an organization, this virtue is crucial.

Courage: Willingness to confront whatever situation comes in life, or being ready to face uncertainty. The ability to handle difficult situation is courage & it’s definitely an important aspect of being a brave human being.

 Resilience: The capacity to recover from unexpected time, situation or events. When we face the challenges over & again, we become resilient also we chose to become the one supportive person in making someone resilient.

Empathy: As a human, we must be empathetic to Somone in difficult situation. The ability to understand other’s emotions, feelings what they are going through & displaying appropriate behavior is an important attribute of human.

Accountability: As a human, we should be responsible for our decisions & actions. We should be aware of what we are doing and what could be the possible outcomes. To live & lead in any society & make the world beautiful, accountability is a very important virtue.

 Transparency: when we are in any form of relationship with other human, transparency is the key to success, being clear to each other strengthens the bond.

 Patience: Enduring difficult circumstances without being anxious helps us to come out of difficult situation making us braver. Sometimes, patience is required when things are not under our control to walk through it. When we keep it, we win it. We require this ability in different phase of life.

Consistency & Discipline: when we observe the nature around, it’s running perfectly without a flaw. Day & night, seasons, rains, rotation& revolution, we get to learn discipline from all the creatures. Humans have will power & choices to practice it and make the life better.

Fun: only human has privilege to do fun in life. It’s an act of entertainment that connects two more human being. It boosts mental health & physical health enhancing our ability to perform & strengthens our relationship with one another.

 Happiness: An aspect of life which entire world thrive for, an experience of joy, contentment, wellbeing & purpose. Only human can explore & feel. We must keep & provide an environment where we feel blessed, smile at each other, have peace of mind, make meaningful connections and as a human we make this planet a beautiful place by celebrating every beautiful moments & people around.

When you feel low & upset after every interaction to certain people, this is the first sign to pay attention towards. They drain your energy, hamper your peace, create self-doubts and pull you down taking away from the growth. Not everyone deserves to be close to us. Let’s recognize the below traits:

• The energy Vampire, 2) Pathological Liar, 3) Joy killers, 4) Manipulators, 5) Friendship in disguise, 6) Green- eyed ,7) The adamants 8) The unapologetic toxic person.

Below is the detailed explanation:

• The energy drainer:

if you have the people around who dwells on drama, attention & end in creating chaos, it’s a red flag you are among toxicity. They seek attention & prefer to talk about themselves alone. They are poor listener & less bothered about other’s feelings.

• Pathological liar:

It’s a chronic behavior of a person where they lie without reasons & intentions, they lie even when it’s not required. Such people are threat to the honesty & integrity. Associating with them can certainly keep you in miserable situation.

• Joy killers:

When you find someone coming with negative talks or finding flaws in moment of celebration, you must distance from such people. They are not pure hearted to accept the happiness of others. they fail to see the sacrifices & hard work kept behind & get jealous which they express by killing the joy of others.

• Manipulators:

This category knows to make their work done & their purpose fulfilled. They can go to any extent in convincing without caring about other’s situation. They may pretend to be sweet & good speaker but they are on their mission. They are one sided transaction maker; you must be careful while dealing with them. It’s easy to get carried away with manipulators.

• Friendship in disguise:

There will be set of people who tries to ignore & judge initially without reason. Eventually when they find you the helpful one or if they see the qualities, or knowledge or skill set in you which they don’t have & they are in need to get those, they pretend to be your friends.

They openly don’t call you their friends & publicly doesn’t treat you like their closest one while in message or over the call, they try to win you saying, they are closest one. It’s a straight away warning to be alert from such traits.

• Green- eyed:

When you are surrounded with the people who minds other’s business more than theirs, must be avoided. They always see what others have & what they don’t have however fail to see the efforts & dedication. They are envious of other’s success.

• The adamants:

When people know their mistakes but never accepts their faults & own the responsibilities and involve in arguments to prove themselves right are the adamants one. They eat your energy & drains you. Identifying them & keeping yourself away from them is good for your emotional well-being.

  

• The unapologetic toxic person:

 They are the actual toxicity, identifying them doesn’t require additional efforts. you can sense them in their behavior. They interrupt you when you are saying something positive & bring the negative points. They see only the negative aspect of the situation & try to upset you and most importantly, they dot accept their wrong doings & never feel sorry even after harming you. They cook   stories out of nothing to put others down. They are fake story maker & originator. Keeping them away helps you to grow in life.

1) Know your manager 2) Understand his objective. 3) Learn about his expectation 4) Show your personality professionally 5) Set boundaries ,6) Make yourself competent 7) Don’t take his words personally 8) Communicate clearly 9) Never hesitate to keep your opinion 10) Be honest at your work 11) Don’t lose yourself for pleasing them. 12) Set your own goals ,13) Don’t work harder than required .14) Consider changing jobs once in 2 years before age 30. 15) Gain more experience and be resilient 16) Document & seek support with HR, 17) Never encourage bad attitude & tones,18) Voice out on toxicity,19) Learn to stay calm and express yourself.20) Never try to relate with them.

 Let’s move towards detailed explanation:

 Know your manager without getting influenced from team:

Before concluding someone as good or bad, we should spend enough time to know the person. Also give preference to your own experience than listening the story from someone else in making idea about any situation or the person. Since behavior is certainly a two-way traffic, so when you know your manager through your collogues, probably you see the other part of coin.

• Understand his objective:

All organizations have their own goals, motivation & core values which a manager is supposed to meet by ensuring the employees working under him or her is adhering to it, hence you must be aware of manager’s perspectives & goals the way we are aware of syllabus before studying a subject. Work without understanding the goals will be incomplete & cause friction between manager & an employee.

• Show your personality professionally:

Personality is combination of an individual’s traits, behavior, basic nature & emotions hence each one of us differ in our personality. For example: Water has its nature to extinguish the fire & fire has its nature to burn the things. Both are important situationally, but both cannot be handled in same manner.  Manager should know his people before handling the team, if you let him/her know of your basic nature, you have option to fight back for the unusual situation if ever arises.

• Set boundaries:

Establishing limit to let your manager know what is acceptable, safe & reasonable in your interaction & day to day business empowers you to exercise at your full potential. You must follow a discipline but beyond that must be addressed.

• Make yourself competent:

The word competent can be seen in two different ways:

One is growing professionally well enough to get recognition, being neck to neck with your colleagues but second one is, just being yourself & give best of your abilities, be straightforward & unapologetic, never try to please & impress anyone, rather focus on your goals & be authentic. I prefer the 2nd method to remain competent.

        

• Don’t take his words personally:

When manager say something in team meeting or while discussing any agenda, don’t assume anything because he or she deals with multiple people at different levels. Also sometimes under work pressure, people might act differently so avoiding taking anything personally until something said directly to you keeps you at peace.

 

• Communicate clearly:

Make a note of challenges you are facing, the way you expect it should be, your ideas, plans & suggestions on the issues. You write an email & schedule some time for the one to one, this not only documents the issues but this approach is unavoidable & one will not take you lightly. Clear communication is key to solve the problem.

• Never hesitate to keep your opinion:

You have the right to keep your opinion at workplace in a professional way. Organize your thoughts, be objective & share your views. Never fear the rejections, it’s part of process. Rejections give us an opportunity to learn & grow but suppressing your opinion is not good for emotional health.

• Be honest at your work:

Being honest at whatever we do, makes us bold & confident. Quality over quantity speaks volume. Never compromise with the standard and values you create. Doing less numbers can be acceptable but doing anything with half heart & mistakes can fire you back, so we should follow the rules: “Honesty is the best policy”.

• Don’t lose yourself for pleasing them:

No matter how hard you try, you cannot make someone else happy until they actually like you. When you try to please someone, you end up in unhappiness. It’s not necessary to like & get liked by people we work with, so we should not give up on our own self. Do what is needed, ignore the response. Focus only on your happiness. Only when you are happy, things will fall the way you wish.

 

• Set your own goals:

You should have your own goal or motivation points to move on daily basis. Other’s motivation is temporary but self-motivation is permanent. Find your own interest area and work on it. This gives you a sense of fulfillments.

• Don’t work harder than required:

There will be someone to break the limit of working hours & efficiency at workplace & your manager can give the reference of that one giant, but you have to decide the requirements. You have to look at the pay scale, expected standards, being on above average on scale of bare minimum to last point will keep you emotionally healthy.

• Consider changing jobs once in 2 years before age 30

 As you don’t have much responsibilities within age 30 & moving from one location to another also is not a challenge, hence you must change work frequently to gain experience & exposure. You get less exploited & working with multiple managers help you identify the difference between good & bad boss. Also beware of soft-spoken people who exploits you without letting you know, at least you are prepared for the bad one.

• Gain more experience and be resilient:

Gaining more experience & exposure makes us more resilient however we should not entertain the incorrect behavior of someone at workplace, rather we learn how to identify & address it fearlessly.

• Document & seek support with HR:

Whichever triggers you and disturbs your peace, you must make a note of it. You communicate effectively over formal means like outlook or teams to your manager & if you find, talking to him will not result in any solution, you must take it to HR.

• Never encourage bad attitude & tones

Pick the right moment & call out that you don’t appreciate the bad tones & wrong attitude. Explain them the effect of their behavior & attitude on your perspective towards work & life. After saying, observe the changes, if at all there is no change, irrespective of who the person is & what’s his/her position, you mirror their tone & attitude in the response, if the organization is good, the issue will get attention & outcome will be positive. Bad is bad & must be addressed.

• Voice out on toxicity:

Keep a record, document the ill behavior, collect evidence, discuss with trustable collogues & approach to the person who can address it effectively. Toxicity should not be entertained.

• Learn to stay calm and express yourself:

Being in your own self gives you happiness. Practice to remain positive & say yourself positive things that, nothing can impact you until you allow. Building healthy life style, associating with people with right attitude helps you in staying calm.

• Never try to relate with them.

Since there is gross difference in terms of role, responsibilities, connections & pay, never expect that you can relate yourself with your boss or he will be able to understand what you feel until you express your requirements. Remain non relatable & help yourself by communicating effectively.

     People also ask! FAQs

 How to deal with toxic boss?

You have access to perform, improve your metrices, make your data strong & keep your book of records clean & handy. You cannot control other’s behavior but you can choose to respond wisely. You can still mirror him by mirroring him or by showing the body language that you do not like his toxicity. Adress it to right person like HR or senior management by providing evidence. If it doesn’t help, work towards cha

1)Never seek respect at Workplace, 2)Train yourself just to be above average but not excellent to avoid burn out, 3)Save yourself from getting drained, 4) Master that one skill which your organization values the most ,5) Use the saved time & energy for your personal goals ,6) Focus on side income 7)Never try to impress anyone at your job, 8)Don’t make enemy at your workplace by sharing your positives or negatives, 9) Prioritize your own motivation over leader’s talk, 10) Job is not misery but how we do job can be miserable

We invest our youth & life to arrive at a job but very few of us are truly happy with this destination called job. From a job doer to being a close observer to the people who are happy & unhappy with their respective jobs, I got a fresh perspective towards it which I would like to share with my readers who are actually finding tough managing their work life balance. I have listed ten points which could be very helpful in going long in job.  There is a saying “Journey should be interesting than destination” but it appears opposite in career journey to many people. The practice which has helped me in managing my job, family & emotions, will certainly help you too. So, let’s begin.

1)Never seek respect at Workplace: Our workplace consists of many age groups, different culture & different mindset & most importantly it functions in teams, hence no one know you outside of the cell in the same organization. The moment you seek respect from people around you invite lot of stress & challenges. Remain neutral & give 60 to 75% of your ability so that your ego & expectation will be in the same limit. It surely helps in keeping you at calm.

2)Train yourself just to be above average but not excellent to avoid burn out:

When personal life becomes priority over professional life, we choose to be an average over being excellent. It simply means if you want to be great at your job, you need to ruin your personal life. Any organization on the globe aims to take out 80 to 85% of your energy & eliminates someone giving their 40% of potential. Hence being above 65% helps you to sustain at neutral position. This will surely help to go long in the race & keeps your personal life smooth.

3) Save yourself from getting drained:

It’s always in your hand to remain alert to stop yourself from getting drained at job. Always measure the work to pay & facilities ratio before taking entire challenges & responsibilities of the role at your head. Some days in your week should be dedicated to organization & some days for yourself, likewise some hours should be dedicated for work, some hours for yourself. If your role doesn’t give this liberty, it’s the time to change, otherwise it will cost at your mental & emotional health in long run.

4) Master that one skill which your organization values the most:

At every job, there will be one core values which an organization looks for, from their employee that must be learnt well & should not be compromised. It keeps you in safe zone at your job. Do less but whatever you do, do with quality, core values should not be doubted & questioned. Also, never let your co-workers know about your method & strategy.

5)Use the saved time & energy for your personal goals:

As mentioned above, when you choose to give 65 to 70%, remaining time & energy you have for your personal life. You can either enjoy with family or you can invest that time in personal goals, it can be learning new skills, or doing exercise, yoga, medidation or simply having fun time with family.

6) Focus on side income:

Building a side income whether it be through investing money or from learning skills but we should not solely depend on job alone. Though it’s tough in initial phase of career, but as career progresses, it’s very much possible if we develop the right attitude & discipline in our daily life.

7)Never try to impress anyone at your job:

When you understand your job is to do the given task & not to impress anyone, you go far in the job without draining yourself. This approach not only keeps you peaceful, but it gives you a freedom to be natural. Ultimately Success is not just about crossing the positions but it’s also about having a happy mind & healthy relationship with people around.

8)Don’t make enemy at your workplace by sharing your positives or negatives:

Try to avoid disclosing anything personal at workplace, when you share positives, you invite jealousy & give an option to people that you can take any move anytime, so you make yourself less reliable to your teammate & the management. When you share your challenges, you open a door to enter an outsider to manipulate you. You can be mis utilized if at all it reflects that you are not in situation to leave the job. Your personal life should be always a suspense to outsiders.

9) Prioritize your own motivation over leader’s talk:

There is gross difference between salary of a leader to that of any employee at any organization. So, there will a difference in talk. Listen to them as part of procedure but keep your ears open to let it go. Protect yourself from burn out & function at an average on scale of efficiency & last long in the job. Imagine you have met every parameter, will that be the end point, never, you will be supposed to add on additional task & it will land you somewhere else. Not always people with right virtues reach to the top, so keeping that in mind, you should be your own motivation.

10) Job is not misery but how we do job can be miserable.

As the article had introduced the role of job in our life, I conclude it as one of the main parts of life & of daily routine, we must not say job is bad or job brings misery. It’s running the families & it can bring happiness if one has learnt to balance it. On a lighter note, & in funny way if I say, “For long drive, we should take an average speed to avoid possible risk & accident, the journey will be interesting & will have no regrets on reaching the destination.”

   People also ask! FAQs

• Are most of the job doers are unhappy with their job?

If we refer to employee’s satisfaction rating section at various site, the reactions are mixed. Many of them has dissatisfactions with their work life balance, on the contrary, few are quite happy at what they do. it depends on the nature of work & the way an employee is skilled and paid decides a lot. Well, it depends on many factors including the nature of work they do, the pay scale & most importantly how they balance it.

• Does successful career make you happy?

Successful career comes to them who aim for it, accomplishing aim should give happiness however it’s a deep subject to discuss, perspective differs from individual to individual. Happiness means different to each one of us. Career is just one part of life, being successful at one part & failure at other can still create a void to get upset about. I would like to quote Lord Budha here “Medium Marga is the best marga”.